#1 Name Hidden. CS: 1
When I was 17, I was applying to BYU. For my application, I needed to have an interview with the bishop and the stake president. It must have been a…
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Legend for Consequences Suffered (CS):
- Inappropriate shame and guilt
- Childhood self-loathing
- Adulthood self-loathing
- Normalizing children to sexual questions by adult men. (Grooming)
- Sexual abuse. (Pedophilia)
- Impaired sexual relations after marriage.
- Years of recovery from childhood shaming. Often lasting decades.
- Suicide Ideation
- Attempted Suicide
- Suicide of a loved one or friend.
#2 Name Hidden. CS: 1,2,3,5,6,7,8,9
My interview at 12 where I was asked if I had morality problems, and when I asked what that meant was asked, do you touch yourself when you are naked…
#3 Name Hidden. CS: 1,2,3,4,6,7
I was a twelve-year-old girl when a bishop I hardly knew asked me if I masturbated. No one had taught me what the word meant, but I sensed that the…
#4 Name Hidden. CS: 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 Other: Complete Worthlessness
From the age of 3 to 8, I was sexually molested. Due to that, as a young pre-teen and teen, I was especially sensitive to the questions from adult Bishops.…
#5 Sam Y. CS: Anger
Ten years after the fact, I discovered that my daughter was asked, “Do you masturbate?” That wholly inappropriate question was posed to her by the bishop when she was 12.…
#6 Donna H. CS: 1,2,3,6,7,8
I was about 16. I had a blind date with someone who proclaimed to be a returned missionary. He was returned missionary but he was a predator. I was pressured…
#7 Name Hidden. CS: 1,2,3,7
From the age of 4 to 12, my older brother sexually abused me. When I was 15, and my brother was on a mission (so I felt safe to tell…
#8 Name Hidden. CS: 1,2,6. Other: Continued Parental Embarrassment
I went in to see the bishop for my 14th birthday priesthood interview. He asked me if I was morally clean. I told him no. Then he asked me specifically…
#9 Name Hidden. CS: 1,2,3,5,6,7,8,9 Other: Patriarchal Abuse
I was sexually abused, starting at age 6. The day before my interview for baptism, my abuser told me that if I told the bishop, I would not be a…
#10 Name Hidden. CS: 1,2,3,4,6,7,8. Other: Mental illness-scrupulosity, including delusions regarding sexuality
I was harmed by the church’s teachings regarding sexuality, including invasive interviews on sexual topics. I was a very well-behaved child. I didn’t do anything beyond occasional masturbation. I honestly…
#11 Max C. CS: 1,2,3,4,6,7,8,9
At 5 years of age, I was caught playing doctor with the neighbor girl. It was pretty innocent, up to that point I had no idea boys and girls were…
#12 Name Hidden. CS: 1,2,3,4,6,7
When I was 17 I confessed to French kissing. The bishop told me how disappointed he was in me. How everyone looks up to me and I’ve let down God,…
#13 Name Hidden. CS: 1,2,3,6,7. Other: Inability to date and marry during “normal” LDS timeframe; judgementalism of others, etc
I grew up in the 1970s and ‘80s. I loved the church and never thought I would leave, but now I’m a middle-aged apostate who believes that one immense contributing…
#14 Caroline R. CS: 1,2,4
When I was fifteen years old, I began dealing with what the Mormon church calls “same sex attraction”. I began to question whether or not I would be happy marrying…
#15 Britt L. CS: 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8
When I was being interviewed to enter young women’s at the age of 12, I was brought into a room with the lights turned off to speak with a member…
#16 Name Hidden. CS: 1,3,8,9
I was 14 when I started dating a never-mo boy I was sweet on, and I suffered shaming for that. How could I betray God and my heavenly family for…
#17 Name Hidden. CS: 1,2,3,7,8
I was 15 and had a 18 year old boyfriend. I lost my virginity. My parents went to my bishop and asked him to talk to me. I was forced…
#18 Name Hidden. CS: 1
I was 7 the first time I was asked if I “abide by the law of chastity.” Not knowing what that meant, I asked for a definition. In that room…
#19 Name Hidden. CS: 2,3
I was 12 years old the first time I was asked about masturbation during a Bishops interview. I think I was surprised to be asked that kind of question by…
#20 Name Hidden. CS: 1,4
I was 15 and had never kissed a boy. In tithing settlement my bishop asked me if I had had sexual relationships with anyone. I said no. He then asked…