These are personal accounts of the negative consequences that inappropriate interviews have had on people.
I was the most innocent teenager growing up in the mission field in an orthodox family. I was best friends with the Bishop’s daughter who was boy crazy. I wasn’t, mostly because at that age the boys had not caught up to my height or emotional maturity. One night the bishop’s daughter wanted to sneak…
When I was 12 I had a “worthiness interview” from my local Bishop to enter the temple. He asked me explicit questions about my chastity. In particular, he asked if I had ever masturbated. At that age, I didn’t know what masturbation was, so I wasn’t sure if I had done it or not. After…
My story may not apply here, as it happened as an adult. As my fiancé and I prepared for our temple marriage we struggled to keep the rules of morality. We crossed a few boundaries, and I saw the bishop to repent. He threatened me with disciplinary council, and to withhold my temple recommend. I…
As a 15 year old young woman, I had a boyfriend that was sexually and emotionally abusive. It took me a long time to get out of the relationship because I felt like I was ruined for all other relationships. I felt dirty. Eventually, I did find the courage to leave. After watching a general…
My youth leader took a different route. One day in Deacon’s quorum he asked all of us “Do you know what jacking off is?” He sort of made a hand motion to kind of give us the idea. When no one really replied, he said, “Well, don’t do that”. Seems maybe harmless? But we got…
I was a naive 19 year old attending Ricks College in Rexburg Idaho and feeling guilty after a makeout session with my boyfriend which involved him touching my breasts. No sex. No nudity. But merely having my breasts touched by someone I was dating was enough for me to feel horrible guilt, so we both…
When I was freshly out of high school I was sexually assaulted. I hadn’t been active in the church in sometime but thought maybe a bishop could help give me guidance, or that I could find comfort and support in the church. When I met with my Bishop and explained what happened to me, he…
While my story is not nearly as horrible as others on here I’ll tell mine to help add to this book. I was 18 and had a girlfriend. We did what every normal teenage couple did and went a little too far. Nothing too serious mind you but I felt racked with guilt. I thought…
I was a sophomore attending BYU. I believe my Bishop was a good man with good intentions. He was merely following the inappropriate interview guidelines given to him. I was sexually assaulted multiple times in a span of just a few months by a fellow BYU dance team member. This happened in 2011/2012. After being…
I grew up in the church. I vividly remember sitting through a Young Women’s lesson one Sunday when I was 15 or 16. The lesson was on chastity. Our well meaning leader explained to us how chastity is similar to touching rose petals. The more the petals are touched, the more wilted they become. I…