Due to the detailed questions, interrogations and guilt shaming I received as a youth in the church, I know have psychological issues with intimacy. I had sex with my husband on our honeymoon and cried because I felt like I had committed a sin….I felt dirty. As a young teen I recall being asked very intrusive questions…..one of which stuck with me. “Did you climax…”. At the time I didn’t understand the extent of how damaging that question was and answered it willingly. Even into my young adulthood after confessing of sins to Bishop post marriage (I was married when I was 19 and a week before temple marriage we slipped up) I was asked very inappropriate details….I was asked how many times my fiancé (now husband) penetrated me…..again, I didn’t think much of it and answered willingly. This has to stop! I know my story isn’t half as bad as others but it still greatly had a negative influence on my life and has damaged my marriage.
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