When I was 18 I had my first boyfriend. We went what I thought at the time was ‘too far’ one night and I felt soo guilty. I had been taught all my life that I needed the bishop to fix big mistakes. So I made an appointment. I went in and told my bishop that things went to far. He then started asking very personal questions. How far? Was I fully clothed? Was my boyfriend fully clothed? How long did my boyfriend touch my breast. Did he touch anywhere else? Did I enjoy it? Where did I touch my boyfriend. Soo many details my bishop asked. I felt very uncomfortable but because he was my bishop and I needed him to help me repent, I gave him all the details he wanted to know. Then he told me I couldn’t take the sacrament for 4 months and he took away my BYU endorsement.
My boyfriend talked with his bishop and only had to stop taking the sacrament for one week and was able to keep his endorsement.
Even though technically I was an ‘adult’ at the time I feel like I was so childlike in many ways. I had been groomed my whole life and told that the bishop was a man of God. That I needed to repent serious sins to him. Not to question his authority. It didn’t even cross my mind that his questions could be inappropriate. I ignored my own inner feelings that told me his questions were out of line and obeyed because that is what you are supposed to do