As a child I would have these one on one interviews with bishops behind closed doors. The sexual questions began when I was a teenager. Very uncomfortable considering I wasn’t taught what “chastity” meant. My family never talked about sex. So it was hard learning different things from leaders in the LDS Church.
I was not like other girls growing up. I took sexual sins very seriously. The first time I kissed a boy was when I was 17. I never made out with any of my boyfriends because the church told me not to and made me feel awful if I did. Come my senior year of high school when I was 17 almost 18. We got a new seminary teacher. He was a male. Over that year he had already touched parts of my private parts over and under my clothes. He was the farthest I had ever gotten with a boy up until that time. And at that time, he was married with 3 children.
And this all happened simply because the LDS Church doesn’t see a problem with sexually explicit questions behind closed doors with bishops….so it must be fine to be behind closed doors with a CERTIFIED seminary teacher…right? After I told the stake president what had gone on for months I had to talk to someone from the presidency of the seminary and Institute counsel…including a lawyer who came with him. It was an awful experience. Lots and lots of shame upon my shoulders.
Since that happened, my stake had every bishop and stake president that interviewed me, open the door. Not for protection. But it was like they thought I was lying about it and didn’t want to be accused of something themselves. Beyond frustrating. They eventually went back to closed doors. And since that time I had dated lots of horny RM’s who took it too far. My bishop had to ask me if I had touched his private parts over or under his clothes and how everything had happened. How we were both almost naked and what we exactly did next. It was awful. And I was 20 at the time.
For those questions to be asked to someone who is in my same situation but younger is mind blowing. It’s awful to sit through interviews that have sexual talk with just you and a male. Especially being a female who should be “chaste” all of the time and temple worthy. Since then I have left the LDS Church and become a true believing Christian. I stand behind Sam. And will greet him with open arms if he is excommunicated for STANDING UP FOR CHILDREN! I only wish someone had done it for me. Shame on you LDS Church. Shame on you.