The amount of shame and unbearable guilt I felt as an innocent teenager caused permanent damage due to this line of sexual questioning and incorrect doctrine. I also remember the Stake President staring me down when I was with his daughter. Incorrectly assuming terrible things about me I suppose. This stuff has consequences. I developed such an unhealthy -low self esteem- terrified view of sex and women during these youthful years. To this day it makes me quite upset and the psychological issues abound.
I’m left to wonder that what was impressed upon my mind as a child from the Church was nothing more than grooming. I see the consequences every week at Church in BYU Provo.
I’m one of the damaged “thousands?” that just pretends everything is fine and I find others that pretend as well as support. We ignore, we pretend nothing ever happened. We don’t have feelings, right? I’ve ignored so much. What a terrible life to live. I’m very sensitive to people including roommates that are struggling with these things because it breaks my heart.
At this point the Church should just apologize, not excommunicate. Even if you don’t like Sam, it’s really not the point.