I joined the church as a 21-year-old woman who had been sexually active prior to joining. After my baptism I struggled with masturbation. I went to my YSA branch president after each time crying and repenting. Lots of self-loathing, shame and mostly guilt.
Fast forward a few years and I was married. My husband was deployed on a year long tour out of the country with the military. I masturbated one night because I missed him and of course, due to the guilt I experienced years before, I went to one of the counselors in our bishopric to tell him (I was a relatively new member and didn’t know these sorts of matters should only be brought up with a bishop). He told me that I WOULD MOST LIKELY LOSE MY CALLING WORKING WITH THE YOUTH (Sunbeams).
He made me feel like such a sexual deviant! Unworthy of teaching kids! I didn’t end up losing my calling but the damage from those experiences has stretched into my marriage for years and I’M AN ADULT! I can’t imagine how damaging these interviews would have been to me if I was raised in the church. It must stop!