I am a convert. I was born and raised into a catholic family on both sides. I was introduced to the church at 15 and soon desired to be affiliated and grow in my testimony of the gospel. I was interviewed at 15 and asked several questions that made me feel entirely dirty. I felt so ashamed I couldn’t even make eye contact with people for a long time.
Fast forward 2 years I was baptized and preparing to go to the temple with my fiance. My ex bf tried to break us up repeatedly and when that wasn’t working he took to my bishop a tape that he and I had made while we dated. It wasn’t a full on porn but it had sexual acts and inappropriate content. My bishop was told what was on the tape and what he could possibly see.
Instead of reaching out to me and ask me about it he decided to watch it. All of it. This tape of me that I had forgotten was made. It had been 2 years prior that it was made and I had forgotten about it. My bishop called me a liar and accused me of trying to lie my way into celestial glory by not disclosing this.
My fiance and I had to move our wedding date back and wait 6 extra months because of this. When the time came for my final temple recommend interview with the stake president, I then informed him of the turmoil and injustice it took to get that far. I also informed him of my bishop watching the video it its entirety prior to making us change our date. He was watching child pornography! I reached out to my stake president for help and told him about the shaming. Nothing was ever done. Nothing ever happened. Also, to this day I still do not know what had happened to the tape that bishop was given.