I was 13 years old when a boy told me that his bishop had told him to “not associate with someone like me” . My neighbor who was my age and my first crush told his bishop that we had French kissed and “engaged in petting”. The bishop told him to inform me that it was the girls responsibility to stop sexual sin from happening because “God has made us differently”. This groomed me to believe that if men had sexual needs it was normal, but if a woman expressed her sexuality she was a sinner.
When I was 14 this same boy went to our bishop to again confess our sexual indiscretions (we never had sex, it was always just “petting”). The bishop insisted that I meet with him which I did. He then proceeded to ask me if I “liked the way it felt” and if I had “reached my peak”. I was so sheltered that I had no idea what an orgasm was which he proceeded to explain to me so that I could answer his question. This interview took two hours. I left feeling dirty and shamed. Looking back I can now see how incredibly wrong that was.