When I was 15 and in my sophomore year of high school, I had a nonmormon best friend who happened to be a boy (which was a sort of “scandalous” thing in my ward). It was a normal bestfriendship and we spent a lot of time together during school and after school. I was already very disliked in my ward as it was, and so rumors to hurt my reputation were circulating. People accused me of doing sexual acts with my best friend when I hadn’t ever even kissed a boy.
Eventually my bishop heard these rumors and called me into his office. I felt humiliated when he said that “the spirit wanted me to talk to you and ask if you’ve been following the law of chastity.” I wanted to burst into tears as I was already harassed by people from my ward.
He then asked me how far it went, going into some detail. When I denied it he didn’t believe me. It was the most humiliating conversation of my life. I went home crying to my mom and they had already heard some of the rumors. So instead of dealing with it, they told me that “the bishop is just doing what’s right for you.” We later moved cities and high schools, away from that ward and away from my best friend. Luckily our friendship has prevailed despite the distance, but I haven’t been able to trust a bishop or let myself be in a relationship since without worrying about my “salvation.” It’s been 4 years since that happened.