I was raised in the church and my mother was sexually and physically abused by my biological father. Whenever she tried to leave him, the church held her back in several ways.
After he began sexually abusing me as an infant, my mother left him. However, regular unsupervised visits with him still happened and I continued to be sexually abused. Church leaders and other members stood behind my biological father, and one of these individuals later became my bishop.
Starting at age 12, I was asked sexuality explicit questions by various bishops and was able to slide by unnoticed, although I was very uncomfortable. Eventually an individual who had stood behind my biological father became bishop and he was more detailed with his questions.
I finally had consensual sex with a boyfriend at 17 and the bishop found out. I flat out told him I had always been sexually active, thanks to my biological father, and asked him at what point that behavior became a sin. He told me that it became a sin when I was baptized at 8 years old and I should know better. I pointed out that he stood behind my biological father when he was sexually abusing me. I don’t even remember what happened after that. I was in shock and very angry. Blaming a child for their sexual abuse and later shaming them for taking their body back.