I was taken to a member of our stake presidency when I was 15 because my parents learned my boyfriend and I had “gone too far.” He asked lots of questions but the one that stuck with me was “Do you think you are oversexed?” I truly thought there was something WRONG with me…something evil about the desires and feelings of a very normal teenage girl. I felt cheap and dirty – and have struggled with feelings of “worthiness” for decades because if that interview and others like it.
I was serving as a Young Women’s President and the Laurel’s adviser. One of our lessons was an opportunity to ask the bishop questions. The girls would write their questions anonymously and put them in a box. I gave the box to the bishop so he could read over the questions. Prior to our meeting the following week he called me into his office to discuss the questions. I was in my early 20’s and I’m guessing he was in his 49’s. He explained he needed help with one of the questions and then went on to ask me what oral sex was. I tried to deflect the question by saying it was simply what it sounds like. He asked me to describe what I meant. I said, “it probably means different things to different people” and then asked to be excused. At the time I just thought he was terribly naive. Now I wonder about his intentions
A few years ago when I was 61 or 62 I went to see my bishop to get a sealing cancellation so I could be sealed to my current husband. The final question the bishop asked me was, “Do you masturbate?” I was absolutely shocked and sickened that some young man would ask me this sexually explicit question!