i was constantly asked as from 14-18 if I was masturbating by my ward leader; my bishop referred to it as, self abuse. I had struggled with that before, but had stopped. I felt ashamed for feeling uncomfortable discussing with my bishop, because it was basically understood at that time that I would be separated from my family after the second coming if I didn’t discuss my sex life with my bishop.
He kept asking me during every six month interview if I had been fondling my breasts, touching myself, and instructed me how to not masturbate while bathing. He suggested my preference toward masculine clothing (I am transgender) was a sign I was sexually deviant. He was overreaching, and I just wanted him to lay off since he knew I was a good person in most respects.
When I finally told him at 17 that I masturbated 4 years prior, he proceeded to tell me what bestiality was, I think to have a dialogue about boundaries and sex, but it was not necessary. Up until this movement, I have always felt like I was morally bad for being angry at my teen bishop for talking to me that way, but now I realize that kind of interaction with children is never acceptable.