When I was around 12 years old my much older sister’s husband molested me and his 9 yr old son. We didn’t tell anyone.
A year or so later my brother-in-law told our bishop what he had done. My nephew and I were called in to the bishops office. We were interrogated about every, single, detail. We were told it was our fault too. We were treated just like we had fooled around on a date and should be ashamed.
The bishop never told anyone and my brother in law went on to molest his 2 daughters.