I had an experience with a boy when I was 12. He was a few years older than me at the time. A family member read what I wrote in my diary about the experience. So my parents sent me to the bishop. Who was also the father of the most popular girls in school.
He asked me specific questions about the experience with the boy. He assumed we had sex, we did not. He asked if he used his fingers inside of me. Then he asked, “did he cum….I mean ejaculate?” I thought it was kind of funny at the time.
But now I realize why is this of importance? We didn’t have sex. We played but why does it matter if he reached orgasm? He didn’t ask me if I had reached orgasm? And the most important thing here was that I was 12. He didn’t ask me if I was okay? He didn’t ask if I was going through some things in my life. He didn’t care that this may have been a cry for help because I was being sexually abused and displaying those signs. The important thing to him was if this boy reached orgasm. I still don’t understand it to this day.
After that his girls didn’t talk to me much and turned their back on me. I think if a bishop gets a 12 yr old girl in his office and is having sexual relations with an older boy that may be something to look at. I would say pay attention to this girl and see if something else is occurring that no one may see. If he had paid attention he may have saved me a lot of heartache. But his concern was that this boy reached orgasm and that his daughters stayed away from me. Disgusting.