I have one story. I am currently an active temple recommend holding member of the church. I served a mission in California. Before my mission, there were sexual sins I had committed at 17 years old. I had gone through the repentance process with a bishop, and my Mom luckily was there with me the whole time.
However, for my mission interview with the bishop, I was asked explicit questions. I was asked to retell EVERY sexual encounter, and EVERY sexual experience I had ever done, in graphic and practically pornographic detail. I felt disgusting and worthless. I felt like the interview itself was a complete mock of the atonement because I had already repented of this.
I considered killing myself for awhile early on in my mission. I would imagine just running away to the streets, trying drugs for the first time, and getting wasted to death. It wasn’t until my mission president gave us a lesson that we were all pure that I realized how wrong and intrusive rehashing everything was for me. Especially being that even if not underage, I was a young 21 year old girl who went into her mission interview truly believing she was pure.
This is not the worst of it from all I have learned. I know a dear friend who was raped, and who was disfellowshipped for being raped. These are true accounts and it is necessary that a policy change be made. Women shouldn’t have to feel this at the hands of men. Women shouldn’t have to be made to feel powerless, like meat being judged on how fresh or not it is.