When I was 19 (10 years ago) I talked to my Bishop week after week repenting for pre marital sex. He asked for details, positions, what birth control was used, the location of the act, how many minutes, and he wrote down the details I told him. He repeated this for a few weeks each time I had to visit him. He told me to not take the sacrament and that HE would decide when I was worthy again and could take it. I had so much shame. I didn’t feel love. I felt I was unworthy as a human being. This has caused me so much pain that’s affected my marriage and how I feel about myself for the past 10 years because it always stuck with me when said “premarital sex is next to murder.” What a horrendous thing to say to a lost, confused teenager. This shouldn’t have happened then and it shouldn’t be happening now.