I was about 14 years old, I was forced to go to church by my mom. I decided to try and be more active and more involved. I wanted to get my temple recommend so I could go to the temple with my Young Women’s group and friends. I remember being asked by the bishop if I had ever done anything inappropriate with a boy. Something that shouldn’t have been asked. It was awkward and inappropriate of them to ask. At the time, I didn’t think of it being weird. As I grew older, I realized that it was none of his business. It made me feel weird and shameful. As if I was a bad person for doing those things.
Many years down the line, it was time for my brother to become a deacon. The then bishop asked him, a 12 year old boy, if he masturbated. I can’t begin to fathom the humiliation my brother went through.
Needless to say, both of us are no longer members