As a youth, I went to my bishop to confess what I was taught to be “inappropriate” behavior with my girlfriend.
When I told my bishop I had done some things with my girlfriend, this was his line of questioning:
Did you have sex? No
Was it with your hands? Yes
Above or below the clothing?
Both On her top or bottom?
Both Was their vaginal penetration? Yes
How many fingers? Uhhhhh….
Did she orgasm?
Did you orgasm?
Did you have oral sex? Yes
Oral on her or on you? Both
Did you orgasm from her oral sex? Yes.
Where did you ejaculate? Uhhhhh…
It was extremely uncomfortable but at the time I thought that was part of the repentance process. I was supposed to feel uncomfortable, shame, and guilt.
I do NOT want my children to experience what I did, and I know others experiences MUCH worse.