I was born in Salt Lake City, raised LDS. I’m 34 now. I have been atheist for almost a decade.
Around 14 I experimented with another boy. I had my worthiness interview with the bishop. When asked if I keep The Law of Chastity I tearfully confessed to what I had been taught was a sexual sin. I told the bishop I had gay relations with another boy. The bishop asked many questions and very specifically. Did you have oral sex? Who initiated it? Did you like it? What other things did you do?
Now I can’t remember all the questions verbatim, but I remember answering his questions while crying. I was thinking ” Why do the details matter? I thought any sexual act before marriage and especially with someone of the same sex was specific enough.” I didn’t understand why details would matter.
It took me nearly another 12 years to even realize how awful and messed up that interview was. I was in the church I didn’t question too deeply my religious leaders.
That same bishop told me at 17 having sex with a girl was just barely bellow murder on the sin scale.
One final seriously messed up experience. I had an interview 12-15 with my Stake President. He asked me about the Law of Chastity. I told him tearfully that I did indeed masturbate. He told me next time I had that urge to take a hammer and smash my hand with it. That way I would stop having the urge to masturbate.