When I turned 14, I was like any normal child. We had moved to a new town, and I was finding my footing. I went to a youth dance for LDS children and I met some friends. I asked my mom if I could stay over at my new friends house, and she said that…
40 years ago or more, I was interviewed on several occasions by my stake president. He was a big tall man and a man of influence. He eventually became a regional representative. I am torn between writing this and not. I was a young teenager when my bishop started asking me if I touched myself.…
Hello, I am not sure if this story is being shared in the appropriate place. But I wanted my thoughts to go with Sam to his probable excommunication. When my daughter was 8 she was going in for her interview with our Bishop. She wanted me to come in, she was nervous. I was going…
Something that I realized I needed to share was the generational effect of abuse victims. My father was raised in incestuous Mormon family. His father, the predator was at one point, a bishop, a school teacher, a temple worker. After decades of terrorizing his family and uncounted children not related, he was finally excommunicated after…
My childhood was very painful. This was not necessary the fault of the Mormon church, but rather my biological father was/is pedophile and abused me sexually, multiple times. Which lead to my brother’s sexually abusing me as well. He also physically abused my brothers and this went on for about 12 years. Never was I…
As a young man nearing the age of 12, I was interviewed by my bishop and asked if I masturbated. I didn’t know what that meant. My parents had taught me about sex, however I had no notion about what the word masturbation even meant. My bishop took the liberty of explaining it to me…
I was born and raised in the LDS church in Las Vegas, NV. I began worthiness interviews with my bishop at the age of 12 as it was expected of all children at that age. I remember my bishop as a kind and approachable man whom everyone looked up to and trusted. However, he did…
I didn’t find out that masturbation was a sin until my bishop had a fireside for the youth. After that I felt extreme guilt because I couldn’t stop. I honestly thought I was the only girl who did this, I was so ashamed. A few years later after admitting it to close guy friends in…
As a child I would have these one on one interviews with bishops behind closed doors. The sexual questions began when I was a teenager. Very uncomfortable considering I wasn’t taught what “chastity” meant. My family never talked about sex. So it was hard learning different things from leaders in the LDS Church. I was…
I have shared one story here so far but I have more, my own and second hand. It is terrible that such a policy is enacted through good men who were naive. This policy can cease. If a worthiness question can be as simple as ‘do you keep the law of chastity yes or no’…