My youth leader took a different route. One day in Deacon’s quorum he asked all of us “Do you know what jacking off is?” He sort of made a hand motion to kind of give us the idea. When no one really replied, he said, “Well, don’t do that”. Seems maybe harmless? But we got…
I was a naive 19 year old attending Ricks College in Rexburg Idaho and feeling guilty after a makeout session with my boyfriend which involved him touching my breasts. No sex. No nudity. But merely having my breasts touched by someone I was dating was enough for me to feel horrible guilt, so we both…
When I was freshly out of high school I was sexually assaulted. I hadn’t been active in the church in sometime but thought maybe a bishop could help give me guidance, or that I could find comfort and support in the church. When I met with my Bishop and explained what happened to me, he…
While my story is not nearly as horrible as others on here I’ll tell mine to help add to this book. I was 18 and had a girlfriend. We did what every normal teenage couple did and went a little too far. Nothing too serious mind you but I felt racked with guilt. I thought…
I was a sophomore attending BYU. I believe my Bishop was a good man with good intentions. He was merely following the inappropriate interview guidelines given to him. I was sexually assaulted multiple times in a span of just a few months by a fellow BYU dance team member. This happened in 2011/2012. After being…
I grew up in the church. I vividly remember sitting through a Young Women’s lesson one Sunday when I was 15 or 16. The lesson was on chastity. Our well meaning leader explained to us how chastity is similar to touching rose petals. The more the petals are touched, the more wilted they become. I…
I finally had the courage to confess my “sins.” I sat in the bishops office shaking, explaining that I had a messed up. He asked detailed, explicit questions that I felt uncomfortable answering. He lectured me on orgasm and erection. He looked at me accusingly like I was some kind of criminal, “where exactly did…
At BYU-Hawai’i, while a student, I came out as gay to my bishop. His response was to ask me detailed questions about what I liked to think about and imagine while masturbating. I wasn’t even confessing anything about masturbation, rather I was trying to get advice on what to do about my sexual identity. After…
I have my own story of shame and acceptance of abuse instigated by inappropriate questions and shaming from a bishop when I was a teen but, today I’m sharing my adult son’s story. My son is unaware of Sam’s movement as any talk of religion triggers his depression and anxiety. He has dealt with severe…
lieber bro Sam, … wir, meine Frau, ich und unsere zwei kleine Kinder waren erst ein paar Jahren Mitglieder der Kirche LDS, auch mit Tempel Siegelung. davor hatten wir mit Glauben und Kirche im allgemeinen nicht vieles zutun. wir waren so glücklich und so begeistert eine “Neue Familie” den Glauben an Gott und Christus gefunden…