My ex-wife used to masturbate when she was a young woman until our marriage (she was 25). She is a true believer and claims that she didn’t have any bad bishop experiences. Despite what she claims, we had some sexual issues during our marriage and she always thought that it was because she was cursed by God for masturbating when she was younger. On top of that, before the wedding, our bishop told her that if she doesn’t stop masturbating, he couldn’t allow us to be married. Really?!!! This particular bishop is the most amazing guy, I have known him for 25 years. He’s not the problem. He belongs to a system that enable him to be inappropriate and he doesn’t even realize it. And if it’s true that she never had bad bishop experiences, she was (and still is) part of a system that shames kids into thinking they’re not worthy if they do something that deviates from norms set by the system. kids don’t understand that they might be different kind of worthiness maybe, They just think they’re not worthy of God’s love and blessings, and even if their bishops are not inappropriate, it just IS the culture, they can’t escape it. Worthiness is a waste of time, a recipe for disaster, a way to control people. I have to remind my 9 year old, that no matter what, she’s worthy, always.