Growing up as a youth, I was never asked inappropriate questions. During my first few weeks st BYU I was interviewed by my bishop. It was just the customary “get to know you”interview. I can’t remember if he asked if I lived the law of chastity because I was so stung by the other questions.
I specifically remember him asking me:
Have you had sex?
Have you had dry Sex?
Have you had oral sex?
Have you had lesbian sex?
Have you had anal sex?
I felt awkward and confused as to why he would ask those questions. I think he was a good man and it was obvious he felt uncomfortable asking those questions. Part of me feels like he was told by a higher authority to pose these questions to all incoming freshman because of his awkward demeanor.
Those questions are extremely inappropriate and looking back I can see how the church culture makes children and youth feel like the bishop or stake president are authorities that we have to answer to. Meaning we answer whatever they ask and do whatever they say because they are divinely appointed priesthood authorities. This is dangerous because it facilitates grooming. Even if there are no ill intentions, it still normalizes the idea of being alone with someone and having inappropriate sexual conversations.
Fortunately, I suffered no repercussions. It was an awkward moment that I blew off.