As a 15 year old young woman, I had a boyfriend that was sexually and emotionally abusive. It took me a long time to get out of the relationship because I felt like I was ruined for all other relationships. I felt dirty. Eventually, I did find the courage to leave.
After watching a general conference talk on the need to confess sexual sins to bishops, I set an appt. I wanted to get the feeling of being impure off my chest, although looking back I know I was not to blame for the situation. The “confession” did not go well. The bishop asked where I had been touched. He asked if I enjoyed it. He asked if I had orgasmed. He asked if I could have said “no” more firmly. I felt more ashamed than I had before. He told me to stop taking the sacrament and to start the repentance process.
While I believe this man was well-meaning, that meeting and those questions should not have happened. The church should not allow these situations to be a possibility.