I knew early on in high school I didn’t want to be a part of the LDS faith, but I continued to go for my parents. When I was 15, I was called in for a semi-annual interview with the bishop. We were alone in his office together and after questions about faith he moved on to worthiness. He asked about my “sexual purity”. I told him I wasn’t sexually pure enough to be taking the sacrament or hold a temple recommend.
However this didn’t seem to be enough information and he pressed me harder as to what me and “that boyfriend” had done. He asked if there was oral sex? Or if there was “petting?” (I didn’t know what that meant and he had to clarify). All the while I was horribly uncomfortable and confused as to why he was asking such specific and sexual questions when I had already told him what he needed to know: I wasn’t worthy. I left after he forced a hug on me feeling awful.
For several months after that he would pull me into his office after church, even if we had no meeting scheduled and question me, always ending with a hug I didn’t initiate. On several occasions when he was greeting our family in our pew he would hold his arms open for a hug. I would offer him my hand for a handshake but he would always say something like, “Oh come on,” and I would. If I were an old man first off I wouldn’t hug teenage girls unless they initiated it. And secondly if a girl were to hold her hand out instead I would take the hint that she was uncomfortable hugging me. Now I try to avoid interviews with him and when I can’t I refuse to go in depth with him. But I’m still uncomfortable around him and uncomfortable with what he knows.