My story is about how the Bishop of the church got information that I had had premarital sex. I was about 15 years old. It was my boyfriend, a convert to the church, that had told the Bishop what he and I did. I did not know this had taken place because we had broken up. My ex-boyfriend didn’t tell on us to get revenge on me, it’s just something that’s beat into your head with those beliefs and you are told to confess your sins.
Anyway I got called into the Bishops office for a meeting. That usually happens about twice a year so I thought nothing of it. During this meeting he asked me if I have had pre-martial sex. I told him no. To me it is none of anyone’s business. He asked me a few more times, then looked at me and told me God has told him that I have had pre-marital sex. Being 15 years of age and raised in that religion I believed him. So I broke down and told him yes I had sex. He told me I had to tell my parents and that he was going to set up a meeting with him, his secretary ( another man in the church with that calling) and two of his counselors.
I will keep this short for now but I did tell my parents (awful) and then I met with the Bishop and the three other men alone in there church office. They asked me very personal questions. How many times did I have sex, where was I when I had sex, did I have my clothes on or off… the list goes on. My parents were sitting outside the room in the hallway of the church waiting for me. My mom ( she told me this later) kept telling my dad she has to get me out of there! She is going to go into the room and get me! These men shouldn’t be interviewing me alone!! She was crying and sick!
My father told her this is what she has to go through. Anyway after that meeting I got a certified letter in the mail from the Bishop saying I was ” disfellowshipped” and it came with a list of what I could and couldn’t do. For instance I couldn’t say prayer in my Sunday school group ( which the bishop told my Sunday school teacher so she knew I was disfellowshipoed, which one of the only reasons for a kid that age to be disfellowshipped is because of sex. So… she knew. Which in turn it was like the whole ward I was in knew I had sex!!! Anyway a lot more to tell but this is what happened. I can tell you more in the future if you would like but after a year of this I found out that God DID not tell the Bishop I had sex, my ex-boyfriend did. A lot of crap hit the fan after that and I wrote a letter to the Bishop telling him what I knew, and that the Bible says repent to God, not to four men in a room getting aroused by my sexual story. Tonya N.