I have a few but the one that was directed towards me was when it was my birthday interview. The bishop asked basic questions like how’s school, how family, anything new… I confessed that I was really struggling with dating… I was almost 17 and had never been even asked out on a date. Not even asked to dance at church dances(which I did go to a few). I was painfully shy and struggled making conversations with my peers. I was getting made fun of from my peers in the ward and being teased and excluded. I was embarrassed and ashamed of myself that I didn’t fit in. The bishop asked me if I liked anyone one or had a crush on anyone one. I said yes but they don’t know me well enough to talk or even know my name. I then was point blank asked if it was because I had same sex attraction that I wasn’t dating. I was so confused and was like no. He then looked at me and said ‘Well normal girls date and go on dates you need to repent and not have any same sex attraction’. I was like no, no one is interested in dating me let alone even to be my friend that’s a guy. I’m not attracted to girls, just because I don’t have any girls that are my close friends doesn’t make me gay. Just lonely for friendship. The bishop then proceeded to tell me that same sex attraction was a sin and that I should refrain from hanging out unless it’s dating a guy and I shouldn’t hang out with girls anymore. He also told me that anything like porn or sexual stimulation was a sin and that I needed to repent for having inappropriate thoughts about girls. I once again told him that I don’t like girls that way and that I was just trying to make friends. I left right before I burst into tears thinking that there was something really wrong with me because I was told by the bishop that I was sinning. Because of this and the talk he had to my parents I never went on a date nor had any close friends I only had just ‘friends’ that were at school only and never more than acquaintances.
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