I asked my children’s bishop not to ask them any questions related to sexuality. He refused my request, claiming that he had a responsibility as a bishop to address issues of sexual purity with the youth. We emailed back and forth a few times, and when he still hadn’t agreed to not ask my kids sexually related questions, I decided to use a different approach.
I sent an email to Christian ministers in our area, asking them if they had the same practice of asking youth about their sexual behavior. I received lots of responses. None of them said that they did the same thing in their church, and most of them said they thought the practice was inappropriate. You can read my email, along with the responses I received, at the following link:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,925430
I forwarded those responses to the bishop of my children. He ultimately agreed to stop asking sexually invasive questions of my kids. You can read more about my experience here:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,925488