When my son was almost 12, I went to speak with the bishop about the upcoming interview for my son. I asked what he would ask my son. He said he asked about the law of chastity and then said he asks each young man if they have ever looked at pornography. If they answer yes, he asks follow up questions such as when, where were they, how did they gain access to it, were they with someone else or alone. Then he said, if they answer no he asks them, “When?” He said they will usually then confess that they actually had looked at pornography.
I looked at him incredulously and asked, “So you trick them?!” He didn’t know what to say and got very flustered, crossing and uncrossing his legs, clearing his throat and finally said, “No, it’s not tricking them. I have an obligation to help them repent when they can’t on their own.” I told him the only obligation he has is to be there for them if they wish to confess anything of their own accord. He disagreed. I told him he was not allowed to ask my son any of those questions, including about chastity. I explained we, as his parents, had already discussed these things with our son and assured him that anything he might be feeling as he transitioned into young adulthood was a normal process and he shouldn’t be ashamed of it. I told the bishop that those things were to be taught and discussed by us as his parents or with someone our son feel comfortable with.
He refused, saying again that it was his duty to ask and we could sit for all of the interview expect that part. When I told my son what would happen, I asked if he was okay with that. He turned to me with a look of utter fear and said emphatically, NO!”
We soon stopped attending church after that. My husband was in full support of this decision.