After having to switch to a different bishop, (the Bishopric was changed in the middle of my mission interviewing process), I showed up to a meeting where the new bishop acted like he had no knowledge of the things from my past that I had been working on with the previous bishop. (After a few years, I realized he knew right from the beginning and that the bishops had talked about me and my private matters with other people). I sat down and he immediately started throwing questions at me that made me uncomfortable. He was prying to know what the old bishop and I had talked about, so I told him. I had sex and I went through the repentance process with the old bishop already. Since the old bishop had told me I had been “forgiven”, I saw no reason to talk with the new bishop about it. But he asked me what happened, who it was with, what we had done, how many times, where it was done. I told him that I was getting uncomfortable and he couldn’t understand why. I told him I wanted to leave and he told me that I HAVE to talk to him about this. I felt so gross leaving that meeting, wishing that I hadn’t even started the process in the first place. Since I knew the bishops had communicated about my situation to each other, the new bishop should have and most likely did know that the process was over and done. But he kept prying to know what we did and where we did it and why (and pretty much everything short of which position we did it in). I felt shame and guilt throughout this entire process. I did attempt suicide because I felt so awful about myself and growing up in the church made me feel like when I did have sex I made the ultimate mistake! No person, but especially no child, should EVER be made out to feel that their actions that come naturally to humans is a reason to take their own life.
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