I am woman in my late 20s who has grown up in a very devout and large LDS family in Northern Europe.Even thought there are smaller amount of Mormons in Northern Europe, the church culture has always been the #1 part of my family’s life. From when I was small girl I was taught to understand the law of chastity, to save myself for marriage and to always speak the truth. And from my teen years, I understood that the temple recommendation interview questions about my sexual activity were mandatory.
When I got to my later teens, I started to have sexual experiences, but because I felt so bad for what I had done I decided to repent. When I spoke with our bishop, he asked me if I had done any sexual acts. Then he proceeded to ask, did you touch him on top of cloths, under his clothes, his private area. Were you aroused. Did he touch you, which way, from where. Did you give oral sex, did he? Was his part inside you, how long it lasted? It was a long and very detailed interrogation. The more I told, the worse I felt, not because of his actions but because of all the shame and unworthiness I felt about everything I had done and how not saving myself for marriage I had ruined everything for my future husband also.
Of course now when I’ve grown older, I realize how inappropriate the questions are. I really do not understand how these very specific question help him to determine my spiritual worthiness. It is revolting to think a middle aged man needs to ask these questions from teenage girls. I want that in the future children don’t have to go through the same inappropriate discussions.