I was an active divorced LDS member, in love with a man who had converted, been baptised and had his temple recommend in hand when he proposed marriage for all eternity to me. We were both mature, had both been married before. This was the culmination of years of study on his part, (he had been athiest), and his conversion was remarkable in many ways.
In our marriage interview with my Salt Lake City area bishop (his bishop was in another state) the bishop asked us each about our sexual preferences, and wanted to know specifically how we intended to make sure that the Holy Spirit was invited to be present, and would always be with us in our times of sexual intimacy, as a constant companion. The conversation was shocking to both of us. The bishop said point blank that we could not have the spirit of God with us if we ever engaged in oral sex.
My fiance was blown away, and silent about the interview. Our wedding was planned at the Salt Lake Temple and family was coming in from all over the US. We were married and started our new life together with many difficulties in our intimate life. The thought of having to perform as if God was present and watching us at all times was too much for my husband. He became impotent both physically and emotionally. He left the church, and wanted nothing to do with it, or the temple, or me. We were divorced three years later.
No, this is not a story about a bishop inappropriately counseling a child, we were both adults. But his lack of training as a marriage counselor, and his highly inappropriate questions and sexual advice directly contributed to a man leaving the gospel in entirety, and to the end of a marriage. I can only imagine what this man’s corrupt counsel did to the children who met with him privately.