I had two interviews happen to me that I did not question but did not feel right about at all. When I was 14 and had admitted to having sexual sin I was asked questions I did not feel were appropriate to be asked to determine what consequence I had. I should have stated when asked questions that sexual sin was all the mattered. I got asked how many times his “penis” had gone in me.
I got extremely uncomfortable even with the use of the word but he stated in order for there to not be confusion I had to use the word when confessing to not confuse with fingers. Then he had asked me if he had ejaculated in me and if so that was worse than not. I was so confused how that mattered. I thought sex was sex. The list goes on and on.
I didn’t question it until a couple years later I had confessed to petting. When confessing he asked how long were his hands down there and was the any rubbing before hand. He also asked many questions I did not feel were relevant. I didn’t think anything of it either until I told my boyfriend and he was not happy and felt uncomfortable with the types of questions I was asked because he had never been asked them. He had the same bishop I had when I was 14 and stated he had repented multiple times without being asking any questions close to what I was asked.
The bishop would always just show up to my house when I made it clear I was busy.
When I was 14 I started to shy away from the church because I just didn’t feel right about the questions I was asked or the language I had to use that made me feel uncomfortable. But my parents encouraged me to go and I didn’t feel like I could tell anyone because I was the one in the wrong for sinning in the first place. And didn’t want anyone to know what I had done so there was no way to explain it to people without admitting to what I had done. So I pretended like nothing had happened and just waited till he was no longer my bishop. He continued to reach out through social media and asking questions I felt he didn’t need to know not being my bishop. I decided to stop responding and he stopped reaching out so again I didn’t feel I should tell anyone with the fear of people thinking I was being dramatic,over the top, or making it up.