My story is not as stark or traumatic as the ones I have read here, but the whole concept of an adult male asking a young teen female these questions is so inappropriate. I baby-sat for my bishops kids, so had a good relationship with him, but was appalled the first (and thankfully) only time he asked me about sexual purity. This was nearly 50 years ago, when I was 12 or 13. He asked me if I was sexually pure, and i said yes. Then he asked me about masturbation. Honestly I had no clue that female masturbation was a thing and told him so. He then proceeded to describe using objects like a tampon – or broomstick(?) – to penetrate and cause a sexual response. I was so embarrassed by the discussion I didn’t know what to think. It actually made me want to find out what he was talking about, but I didn’t because it was ‘evil.’ It took years for me to decide it was ok to use tampons, and i still get an uneasy feeling when I think of that conversation or having any kind of worthiness related interview with a male church leader.
And later I realized that female masturbation doesn’t require any type of insertion of fingers or objects into the vagina to stimulate a response, so his questions were at the same time both too specific and not specific enough to really get to the issue if you think it is one.